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Originally Posted by ahimel  I'm also terrible at small talk. Ideas?
Thanks!
Amanda |
Here is what works for me so far: get into a mental frame where you can pretend that you are talking to one of the most enthralling, most interesting persons in the world. In other words, be curious. If you think you can't do such a thing genuinely... just pretend that you're not pretending
Act as though they are experts in a fascinating field who know something totally unique that you just
have to learn all about (you have to find out what that is, of course), as if you were talking to someone famous or important.
Now, the tricky part... is to actually listen actively, really hear what they're saying and think about it.
Is it tough? Yeah, it takes practice. But if you make small talk about them and not you, you will be able to instantly see the change in their facial expression and body language cause they will just be blown away, and they will start thinking that YOU are the interesting one. I would say that most people seem thrilled to talk about themselves, use that to your advantage.