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Originally Posted by jamestl2 
What do you mean by "you can't trust yourself", was there something I specifically did wrong? And I wasn't "feeling suicidal" or anything like that.
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Well, a couple of your arguments made me think that you were afraid to trust yourself when it comes to a girl you like. For instance, "premature attachment is unhealthy" makes me think that you are afraid you can't trust yourself to hold back until you think the water is safe. You may not trust yourself to fall in love with the "right" girl.
Also, with "A New Measuring Stick is created," you seem afraid to trust your own senses. And I hope this reassures you, I don't compare all the guys I meet to my first boyfriend from high school. I thought I was going to marry him and everything; we dated for almost 2 years, and now I hardly ever think of him, and when I do, it's not in a bitter or regretful sense. Of course, it's been 5 years since we broke up, so I've had lots of time to move on and meet other guys.
Moving on, with "You’ll retain complete control of your life", I got the impression that you don't trust yourself to be assertive about what you want and need in your life when you are in a relationship. Maybe you are afraid that once you get a girlfriend, you have to change everything and give up all the things in your life that she does not enjoy. This is not true, and if a girl ever makes you feel that way, then she is too controlling and you should stay away.
"She’s probably already seeing someone else"-- You don't think you are a good enough boyfriend to satisfy all her needs? This is by far the most paranoid comment you make. I have never cheated on anybody, and I've had 2 main relationships lasting about 2 years each, and I'm in one now that is about to hit the 2 year mark.
"Thinking about an Unrequited Crush all the time can lead you into a Depression" --Do you not trust yourself to handle the emotions that come with a possible break up? Sure, a break up
can lead to depression, but does it always? No.
I understand that you had a bad experience and are trying to learn from it and protect yourself, but if you shield yourself too much, you will miss out on wonderful experiences as well, and they are out there.