the two kids in question are 13 years old or older. They've got a good bead on who is who and what is what in the relationship. This guy has been eating something distasteful for a long time. Being constantly brow beaten is a nightmare, and the only change this woman is bound to make is a change for the worse. He should leave. Take half the savings, petition for divorce, and let the courts decide what the next steps should be.
The next step for this man is to get some counseling, not for the marriage, but for himself. Otherwise he will, invariably, get involved with another partner who exhibits the same tendencies. But that's the work of a professional and not from an amateur like me.
If he is concerned about the two step children, he can maintain a healthy relationship, perhaps even visitation if the court allows it. He should try to keep the separation as dignified, and calm a proceeding as he can. He can't help the kids if he's constantly scrambling.
Even a stone can be worn to a nub by a constant drip of water.
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