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Originally Posted by cultivategreatness  ...she makes me fell inferior which pisses me off and we end up in a dispute ...what can I do to help her change... |
"Well. Nobody else
makes you feel inferior, and nobody else pisses you off. That's
your business. "Helping" your wife change is NOT your business -- changing your own thoughts is. If you want to have a life that works, attend to your own business!
Which doesn't mean condoning being treated poorly, or staying in a marriage that doesn't work. But it does mean taking 100% responsibility for what you are being, what you are feeling and your reactions; it also means accepting your partner exactly as she is and exactly as she is not. You are not doing either, and that's how you have built the jail you find yourself in."
That's what I'd say. I might also be tempted to make some recommendations regarding improving one's communication skills.