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Originally Posted by jamestl2  How is it possible to really place our hopes and dreams in someone else's hands? How can we take what other's say at there word?
For example, in my latest post: 9 Reasons You Should Never Fall in Love
I raise some points that it's virtually impossible for me to trust anyone of the opposite sex. Maybe I'm being a tad paranoid, but even if others never really intend to cause harm, it still happens. |
Well, maybe you're not paranoid, but it does sound like you have lots of irrational fears. That is to say, your fears are not authentic fear, like a bear is chasing you, but projected fear of what might or might not happen in the future. And they seem to be mortal fears -- as if you were going to die if any of them were to happen. In fact, your fear has taken you over to the point where you are absolutely convinced that one or more of them will come true. By holding onto and focusing on your fears, in fact you are more or less sentencing yourself to that outcome.
The truth is, even if all of them happen, it won't kill you. What you described
does happen sometimes, that's for sure. People lie, they break promises, they don't do what you want them to do when you want them to do it. Not just in romance, jamestl2 -- all of that happens all over life. And mastering it all is part of the fun of the game! Being the person you are inspired to be, regardless of the actions, thoughts, and feelings of others -- that's what has you being in love with your own life. Relationships of all kinds, including the mess and the heartbreak, are abundant gifts to you in developing the skill to be the person you are inspired to be. Without relationships, you'd be SOL.
So my question is: why NOT trust people; why NOT fall in love in every moment? The risk of pain is an infinitesimal price to pay for being vital, free, connected, joyful, and madly in love with my life.