I've been in the balance between introvert and extrovert for my school life, and have now found myself in recovery mode from a tilt to the introverted side that i quite enjoyed for a few months.
If immediacy is the aim would being direct help, It can feel quite awkward when you're oriented towards personal growth and you encounter people that appear so distant. I like to find the fun questions which are a great benefit to answer for yourself but that aren't like going up to a stranger and asking 'what have you done for your soul lately' (no matter how fun that might be
its often met with disgust)
I enjoy having those spontaneous moments with strangers where you both walk away with a cheesy grin, and the only valid way i could see myself creating them more often is through intention manifestation and the act of letting go.
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To address your original question i'd suggest finding what you enjoy, don't ignore you're needs for real conversation by attempting to play the game everyone else does with small talk