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Originally Posted by wolfgang  However it's a dynamic between you two and he wants to see you get annoyed as some sort of confirmation of this familiar dynamic. He probably thinks it's harmless and just teasing but it never felt that way to me with my brother when he acted that way towards me. Him pointing the remote at you caused you to apply this technique but what response did you give him in place? Did you become playful or did you just not respond at all (which made him want to escalate) or did you say something like "I'd perfer that you don't do that" in a non-emotional way and continue on? Or, "That's a bizzare way of showing love and it you know it annoys me". How were you responding that wasn't like your normal annoyed look? |
Yeah, it's an affectionate teasing thing. Being the youngest, having two older brothers, you'd think I'd be used to affectionate teasing by now. But no, I've gotten hyper-sensitive about it over the past few years -- it's even difficult for me to take teasing from my dad anymore! Which makes me quite the party pooper...
The proper response from me should be playfulness in response (matching high vibrational energy with high vibrational energy). If I ask him not to do whatever he's doing, and calmly mention that it bothers me, he either completely ignore me, or invalidates the sentiment by mocking me, which drives me into a tizzy! Logically, I know that he's just trying to make me take everything less seriously, but boy does it have the opposite reaction... kind of like telling an upset person to "calm down." Funny how that works! On the other hand, if I just get annoyed, I think he thinks it's cute, unless I flip out, in which case he gets mad at me.
I have no issue with stuff like this when I've had a high-energy day, but those are very rare. I'm usually always on the brink of being exhausted, a mix of physical and spiritual disconnection that I haven't figured out how to consistently fix yet.
It drives me crazy that I'm so hypersensitive to stupid things. But this has gone on so long it's almost become iconic. I wonder if I could convince him to be abstinent from the noises and pointing for a month or so to let my knee-jerk reaction start to fade.
Sorry for hijacking the thread, Erin -- this is starting to sound more appropriate for the Emotional Mastery forum! Perhaps I should post there now that the subject's come up...