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uberinquisitive · 03-17-2008, 11:05 AM

I've been in your shoes.

You feel like garbage because you CHOOSE to feel like garbage. In a sick way, it gives you an identity, and it gives you an emotional pay-off. For me, I needed an excuse to not take responsibility for my life. I needed the attention being depressed gave me (even negative attention was ok). I was really invested in being "totally NOT ok."

Letting go of that identity is tough. It's comfortable. And, if you let that identity go, then who are you really?

I really recommend you read Eckhart Tolle "A New Earth" and watch the Oprah/Tolle webinar.

03-17-2008, 11:05 AM	#11 (permalink)
uberinquisitive Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 634	I've been in your shoes. You feel like garbage because you CHOOSE to feel like garbage. In a sick way, it gives you an identity, and it gives you an emotional pay-off. For me, I needed an excuse to not take responsibility for my life. I needed the attention being depressed gave me (even negative attention was ok). I was really invested in being "totally NOT ok." Letting go of that identity is tough. It's comfortable. And, if you let that identity go, then who are you really? I really recommend you read Eckhart Tolle "A New Earth" and watch the Oprah/Tolle webinar.