| | problem with friends acting distant with me
I might seem really angry over this but keep in mind,this incident just happened 5 minutes ago so i'm mad about it right now. But i am fed up with this happening so i had to vent. There probably isn't any advice for me except to stop talking to these people,but that isnt in my nature to just drop friends like that.
First i'll tell you about what just happened. This friend lives in another state and we have never met but we've been talking online for about 5 years. We almost planned a trip to go to a concert together next month but didn't because neither of us has the money for a trip. Anyway,me and her have always been super close,we've always emailed each other and chatted almost every day. When her internet was down,we even mailed handwritten letters. We consider each other one of our best friends.
About a month ago is when this kinda started,we both talk to this band on Myspace,and she is in love with one of the guys. He messaged me too. For a reason i won't go into cuz it's just too much explaining,she has my password on there (thats how close we are). She read one of his messages and deleted it and lied to me about it and told me she didnt. So according to her it just deleted itself,apparently. Well i decided to let it go. But things have been getting worse ever since. Like she comes online a lot less,and when she does come online,she barely talks. She'll answer in short sentences,and would go for half an hour without talking if i didnt say something. Tonight i asked her what she was doing and she said 'just watching a movie'. I just don't get why before whenever we'd chat THAT was what we did,we would talk about our day,just chat nonstop,for hours,sometimes even an entire day. Now it's like she could care less. And also,whenever we say goodbye for the day we say to each other "sweet dreams of (insert name of a guy here)" whatever guy we both like at the moment...well tonight i said that to her but instead of saying it back,she just said "thank you" and left! She's NEVER done that before.
Whenever i say something like 'how come you weren't online' or 'how come youre so quiet' or anything regarding her distance,she just says "idk" (short for 'i dont know') sheesh,so she cant even give me full words to say she doesnt know why she is quiet?! WTF! And i asked her about a cd burning problem i had,and i knew she'd know the answer cuz she burns cd's for me all the time,well her answer was (again) "idk". Short and simple.
I have this other couple of friends who i have known for about 3 years,we've partied together hundreds of times,and we used to email almost every day too. Well,that suddenly stopped (she said she doesnt check her emails every day anymore...yet i notice she goes on Myspace every day) Also they quit asking me to hang out and after about 3 months of this,i confronted her and asked what the reason was,she said that they just don't go out much anymore cuz they dont have money. Well,one time we went out like 2 months after she said that,and there were a few other girls out with us and i asked how she met them and she said 'oh they're always out with us lately' mmmhmmm. And then one night i called them to do something since i was in their area and they said they were already out with some other people. Before they would have called me BEFOREHAND and told me about the plans and i would just join them,thats how it's always been.
In both of these situations,these people don't have a reason for acting this way! There was no fights,i never fight with anyone! They all loved me,for YEARS...why do people suddenly get distant,for no reason,deny that it's happening or give stupid excuses?? If they had a problem with me it would have been evident right away,but to hang out with someone for years,or talk to them every day for years,and then suddenly out of nowhere they get all distant on you...that just doesn't make sense. I could see if you werent good friends to begin with,but not when they are your best friends.
As usual after you get something off your chest,you feel better,but you still have no answers. Anyone in a similar situation or have any idea what might be happening here?