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Originally Posted by danas  to me that sounds like hes not interested |
Well,he didnt even know any of us,we were just a big group of fans standing there. He couldn't be not interested in me when he didn't know me. I'm not saying he IS though,just saying,who is interested in somebody when they are one out of 10 people in a group that you are just walking by?
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Do you really want a relationship?
WHY do you want one?
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Of course I do. I want one because i want to give and receive love and share my life with someone,same reason anybody else wants one (excluding immature reasons)
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Is their a higher reason?( i.e not just someone tobe with so that you are not alone)
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I have been alone for 33 years of my life,i don't NEED a relationship. I love being alone sometimes. And when i don't love being alone,i still don't date just anybody just to have someone. I learned that lesson from my first boyfriend,that it's better to be alone than unhappy.
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What are you willing to let go of for you to be in a relationship?
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I don't get this question. Why do you have to let go of anything? Do you mean would i be willing to quit my job or move away from my family? It depends on how much i like someone i'm with,i guess.
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Are you willing to let go of a fantasy man for a real one?
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If i was with him,i wouldn't need the fantasy because i'd have the real thing! If i am with someone else,it's hard to say because the reason i have the fantasy is because that is what i want. So if i get something else,naturally i'm going to still fantasize about what i want. Unless the other guy turns out to be better,of course.
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If the answer to that is yes- what do you like about this guy so much?
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Thats why i feel like there is something different going on here...he doesn't have anything that other guys wouldn't have,there his just SOMETHING about this one! I can't put my finger on it. When i look into his eyes something just happens inside me and i can't explain it. I wish i knew why.
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is it that hes attractive and intellegent?
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Well,to ME,he's the most beautiful person i've ever seen. And I dont know how intelligent he is,as far as IQ or common sense,but when he talks,he comes across as someone who is on my level as far as that goes. He reminds me of myself,i feel like we would totally relate to each other. Aww im getting all mushy now...
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Focus on characteristics instead of a person.
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Well,like i said,i can find tons of guys who have the same characteristics,but for some reason they don't do anything for me. It is just like no other men exist to me. That's why i feel like there is some kind of connection I don't know about (past life thing,soul mate thing,etc) since i can't explain it,that's the only thing i can think of.
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why dont you get in touch with reality? Just make a move at this guy instead of staying in your mind- ask him out!
its a win win- if hes says yes- great, if he says no at least you will make room for something REAL.
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Well that isn't what you do,when you're a fan of a band and you're all hanging out and everyone's like "i loved the show!" "that new song was awesome!" you can't just pipe in with "will you go on a date with me?" lol I was hoping to be able to talk to him and establish a connection and then have a valid reason for exchanging email addresses or something,so it isn't so stalker-ish LOL I mean,lets face it,if you were a gorgeous rock star who could get any woman you wanted,what would you think if one of your fans just walked up to you and asked you to go on a date and gave her your number? I don't want to give the impression that i'm just after sex. He doesn't date fans anyway. I guess i wasn't thinking about how this was going to play out,i was listening to what the law of attraction said,to just wish for it,and dont worry about the "how" part of it. I guess i thought he would sense this connection and ask for MY number first LOL