 The decision can only be made by you.
Hi Laur,
I am actually a grandparent. My son got his girlfriend pregnant in 2001. Her mother took her to the clinic to have an abortion but she told the doctor she didn't want one. That is when her mother came over to the house and informed my wife and I about it.
Her mother actually wanted us to support her insistence that she have an abortion. I personally can't have a baby being a man but I know how it feels to sit beside my wife for 24 hours while she is going through labor pains and I know what it feels like talking to a very young girl that could have or abort my first grandchild with her mother insisting she abort her.
I was very much afraid she would have the abortion but I also knew it wasn't my decision. My advise to her is the same advice I have for you.
You have to decide if you want to have your child. You and only you have the right or the responsibility for the decision. You will have to live with your decision for the rest of your life. Your decision will affect more than just you and the baby, it will also affect the father and both sets of grandparents.
If you decide to have your child your next decision will be whether you will keep the child or give it away. In my granddaughters case her mother originally decided to keep Haley. She found out a few months later that with her life style a baby was more than she could handle. Since Haley had lived with my wife and I since she was born Haley's mother ask us if we wanted to look after her.
Of course we did, I can't hardly imagine what my life would be like without Haley in it. I am also sure that Haley's mother couldn't imagine what it would be like without Haley in her life as well.
The point of all this is to let you know there are many paths a story can take. Just because you select one doesn't mean it will only be the one. I suggest you discuss your thoughts with your parents and the fathers parents. Be open to their input but don't let them decide for you.
Abortion is one option and if you take it it is a final option. Having your child is another option that gives you a number of options even after you have the child.
I wish you peace and harmony in your decision and joy and love in your life.
Magnetman
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