[Michael45]

Thank you and Amen..................

Originally Posted by Dannyboy1

Let's stick to what I said. Number one. I said the responsibility lies with both, but you make the best of what happens. I hate the fact that a guy can just walk away. I think it's horrible. Any guy who does that is a coward and I wish they could be put in jail just as if they had abandoned them in the woods. I would absolutely support that and I think it's a major fault in our judicial system. Secondly, I never said I knew what it was like to have a baby in my stomach. I was pointing out to a woman that she had not ever been pregnant, while I had done as much of the experience a man can have and, although I will never know what giving birth feels like, I know much more than she does. She knows what it's like to be a woman, but she knows nothing about childbirth. I have more empathy for what women go to than most men because I my wife is studying to be a midwife and has educated me for the last two and a half years since before our child was born about childbirth. If you want to know what's patriarchal about this society, it's that men were the first doctors and decided they know better how to give birth than women. They literally tried to create the misconception that midwives are uneducated witch doctors and that it was dangerous to have natural childbirth. Did you know the US has a worse infant mortality rate than nearly every modern nation in the world? And it's all because they want to get the women in and out so they can fill more beds and make more money. Rather than wait and letting the birth take the natural amount of time, they tell the woman it's taking too long and they need to induce, which increases the pain, thus increasing the need for an epidural and possibly a c-section. These "doctors" are creating a chain reaction which ultimately increases the danger to both the mother and baby. Just to get them in and out. Did you know that c-sections are at an all time high? The increase in recent years is staggering. Did you know that the most c-sections occur between the hours of 4 and 5 o'clock when doctors want to go home and 10-11 o'clock when the shift changes and they want to go home? Did you know they have no right or real need to take your baby away right after they're born to clean them up, that it's better for bonding that the baby stay with the mother and begin nursing? But most of the time they take the baby away from the mother within the first half hour (sometimes immediately) and when the mother asks why, they say they have to? We don't and we never will, yet most women just go to the doctor and trust whatever they say and forget birth is a natural thing. It's not like getting your tonsils out. I know all this because I care. Believe it or not, not all men are jerks. I take responsibility and learn everything I can to be as much of a help as possible. I'm writing this now because I believe people need to wake up and educate themselves and not run out and get an abortion without fully comprehending the enormity of the decision. I've seen people jump on this site and just toss out advice based on all the propaganda they've been fed and some of them have never read a book, or attended a class, or even had a good friend who went through a pregnancy. All they've done is read people magazine and they think they can give a young girl advice. It's irresponsible.