I don't believe anyone who has not had a child themselves has any right to offer you advice. I was pro choice until I had my child and now I thank God every day we never seriously considered abortion even though we had only been dating a year. It's easy to be pro choice when you haven't met your child yet, but make no mistake, you are stopping a life. This baby will never be born again. You will find a way if you have this baby. If you don't want the baby, there are many people who can't have children who will love you forever for having it. You created this being, you owe it to them to at least give them nine months of your life to give them a chance.
To anyone who's never had a child, I ask you to consider the fact that you do not have the experience to make this decision for someone else. Think about times when an experience transformed you into a totally opposite way of thinking. So much so, that when you try and change your friends minds, they cannot and even refuse to believe you. You've become enlightened in a way that they cannot possibly understand until they go through it. I cannot possibly explain the experience of having a child to you, but I can ask you to realize that if you did have the experience of having a child, you would definitely not take this decision as lightly as you are right now. I have never met a person who would ever consider having an abortion once they've had a child.
One more thing. When we found out we were having a baby, I was expressing my nervousness to an aquaintence I had know for a couple of years. I told him we were broke and I had no work and I wasn't sure I was ready, but we were going to have the baby anyway. He looked into my eyes with tears in his and he said, "We have been trying to have a child for years and we can't seem to make it happen. Please, give him to us. If you don't feel you can take care of him, give him to us." he then turned and walked away crying.
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Originally Posted by laur_454  Hello! I found out two days ago that I'm pregnant. I'm 23 and unmarried. My boyfriend is 29 and we do not live together. We've been together almost 6 months. We both have full time day jobs which are decent paying. I think our families would help and definitely be supportive. I was not expecting to get pregnant and my initial reaction was fear and shock and automatically assuming that there was no way I would keep the baby. As the day progressed though, my boyfriend was extremely supportive and said he'd be with me no matter what. I started to feel more emotional and more accepting of the situation and even worried about the baby. I researched pregnancy and fetal development and now I'm feeling like I can't imagine give it up. I read Erin's blog entry about the karmic repercussions of abortion and it really resonated with me. However, I'm finding it very frightening that I'm going to have to give up my freedom and devote my life to someone else. I don't want to be selfish, and I take full responsibility. I'm a liberal person and I'm pro-choice, but I'm not sure how I feel about having an abortion myself. Has anyone experienced this before? Thanks. |