and to the peole who were giving her advice.
I don't believe anyone who has not had a child themselves has any right to offer you advice. I was pro choice until I had my child and now I thank God every day we never seriously considered abortion even though we had only been dating a year. It's easy to be pro choice when you haven't met your child yet, but make no mistake, you are stopping a life. This baby will never be born again. You will find a way if you have this baby. If you don't want the baby, there are many people who can't have children who will love you forever for having it. You created this being, you owe it to them to at least give them nine months of your life to give them a chance.
To anyone who's never had a child, I ask you to consider the fact that you do not have the experience to make this decision for someone else. Think about times when an experience transformed you into a totally opposite way of thinking. So much so, that when you try and change your friends minds, they cannot and even refuse to believe you. You've become enlightened in a way that they cannot possibly understand until they go through it. I cannot possibly explain the experience of having a child to you, but I can ask you to realize that if you did have the experience of having a child, you would definitely not take this decision as lightly as you are right now. I have never met a person who would ever consider having an abortion once they've had a child.
One more thing. When we found out we were having a baby, I was expressing my nervousness to an aquaintence I had know for a couple of years. I told him we were broke and I had no work and I wasn't sure I was ready, but we were going to have the baby anyway. He looked into my eyes with tears in his and he said, "We have been trying to have a child for years and we can't seem to make it happen. Please, give him to us. If you don't feel you can take care of him, give him to us." he then turned and walked away crying.
Originally Posted by Akashic_Librarian
Ahh you see this is where I disagree with Erin. I think Abortion is a right any parent has, both male and female must make a mutual decision (unless its rape or damaging to the mothers health etc..) If they wanted a baby, but then the either one gets fired from their job, then I think its perfectly acceptable to get an abortion. If the child will be mentally ill, or physically ill to the point where it will affect their daily lives so much they need constant care, and constant attention, then I think its OK to abort them, in fact, I think its selfish to keep them alive.
I don't think there would be spiritual reprecussions in this instance. I think life begins as the baby leaves the womb. Up until that moment, its not conscious in my opinion. Its obviously alive, its alive from day 0, but when are you truly conscious? When are your earliest memories? age 3 - 5 I imagine for most people...
Its complicated, and I know a lot of people, will have a lot of opinions...