Originally Posted by moonrambler
Interesting how you think you know him, while still realizing he doesn't know you.
YOU DON'T KNOW HIM. You've made up a fantasy about what it would be like to be with him, from all the stuff you've heard about him. It's not at all the same thing.
I know that you will now insist that you actually do know him.
I think rockchick meant "know someone" as in knowing his looks and a rough outline of who this guy is or what he may be like. Even when you focus on a loving relationship you've got an image in your mind, like what that someone would have to look like and the character attributes you value. That's the way it works. You don't focus on a non-descript blob.
I actually don't even see any harm in saying, alright I'll want to be with this specific person and accept whoever he is and all that comes along with this relationship, I take the whole package without checking what's in it for me. If he's a drug addicted alcoholic and makes my life miserable 24/7 I accept that with a happy smile.
Two things might happen, you get what you ask for ...or ...the other soul that's this guy says "no,thank you" and nothing happens. Don't know what would be worse, but you got the choice to ask for whatever you want.
This is not about pointing a gun at some stranger's chest and tell him to love you. If you stay within social boundaries, if you respect the other person and his or her decisions, you can wish for being with whoever you would like to be with.