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kalyan · 03-14-2008, 07:24 AM

if she is not wrong ,than u must be wrong,but your words say that she is not giving freedom for doing your own things,may be she might had become over dominative with time,in a relationship between wife and husband everything has to stay in balance including care ,love,freedom .One has no right to restrict others feelings unless there is a satisfactory reason in doing that and that reason also must be agreed by both the partners.just do the things what all she likes and just after that on a happy moment say what all things your facing as problem due to her and convince her that u like her much but decisions taken by her is making your freedom restricted.Ask for an explanation if required and say her equality has to be maintained ,if what all the reasons she say to u after that are satisfactory than its your turn to change yourself and if there is mistake in your wife and if she is not willing to change her behavior than shower more love towards her because love can change anything which hatred fails to do, that is the secret behind love .Even if she commits any mistake just accept it with a smile .i think this might bring change in your wife also making u happy without worrying about what she does to u.Remember that change cannot come in one night or in one month,,even a 25 years aged person shows obsession for changing his behavior than think of a person aged 30 or 35 plus ,so u have to wait with patience and patience only pays much if followed for long period if she doesn't change u will get changed at last what u required is getting the problem solved,patience only pays

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kalyan Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 8	just try this if she is not wrong ,than u must be wrong,but your words say that she is not giving freedom for doing your own things,may be she might had become over dominative with time,in a relationship between wife and husband everything has to stay in balance including care ,love,freedom .One has no right to restrict others feelings unless there is a satisfactory reason in doing that and that reason also must be agreed by both the partners.just do the things what all she likes and just after that on a happy moment say what all things your facing as problem due to her and convince her that u like her much but decisions taken by her is making your freedom restricted.Ask for an explanation if required and say her equality has to be maintained ,if what all the reasons she say to u after that are satisfactory than its your turn to change yourself and if there is mistake in your wife and if she is not willing to change her behavior than shower more love towards her because love can change anything which hatred fails to do, that is the secret behind love .Even if she commits any mistake just accept it with a smile .i think this might bring change in your wife also making u happy without worrying about what she does to u.Remember that change cannot come in one night or in one month,,even a 25 years aged person shows obsession for changing his behavior than think of a person aged 30 or 35 plus ,so u have to wait with patience and patience only pays much if followed for long period if she doesn't change u will get changed at last what u required is getting the problem solved,patience only pays Last edited by kalyan; 03-14-2008 at 07:30 AM.