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Originally Posted by lightthecandle  I like this guy, but I can't help but feel that I'm not good enough for him. I daydream that I'm the perfect girl...for him...to the point where it is very very unhealthy. I can't focus on my schoolwork...I constantly daydream that I'm this perfect human being in my traits, prettyness, intelligence...for him. I constantly worry and hope and wish that I was perfect...for him. Its seriously making me depressed and I can't focus on my schoolwork because of it...I constantly think..."If only I was good enough..for him" help me out of my depression, please  the sad part is even though I really like him...he's just one of those guys who just wants one thing...and I am sooo not ready for that. maybe i should forget about him and move on and think about guys that will treat me right and not just look at girls like sex objects? |
"Needs" are such a terrible thing. Needs - desires that can only be fulfilled by someone (or something) else. "Needs" are often very difficult to fulfill because they rely on the actions of others. When they are not met, then you feel negative emotions. (Emotions are the result of fulfillment or non-fulfillment of desires, needs or expectations.)
If you are tired of being depressed, then it is in your best interest to release the need to impress/be perfect/approval/acceptance and choose a desire that you know you can fulfill in place of that need.
If you focus on desires that you can fulfill, then unrealistic needs will go away (and thus the negative emotions of not fulfilling them).