Ponder the difference between dependence and interdependence. You want the latter.
I don't think that being emotionally close and intimate inherently implies unhealthy dependence. If you crave it 24/7 to the point that it doesn't allow your partner any freedom or space, then it's too much of a good thing. If you crave it as reassurance that the relationship is "okay", that is not a good thing.
Have you discussed with your partner what she is feeling? What from your POV is the disconnect between what she SAYS she feels and how she ACTS? Examples please. Also, does she in any way think you are being clingy? If so, how, exactly?
Also ... would you classify yourself as an introvert or an extrovert? Your partner? If you're both the same type, which of you is MORE that type than the other?
--Bob |