 difference between intimacy and dependency
i've wanted a relationship so bad, and now i have one. except i'm finding out that what i want and what she wants is quite different. she likes me because of my intellect and the ideas i've shared with her so far. i wanted her because i thought i could experience emotional intimacy. to her, she's perfectly happy with the level of emotional intimacy that we have. to me, i feel we're veeeeery distant in that area.
i've read alot about what new age people would consider a happy soulmate relationship. they say that you have to be independent, that only you can make yourself happy. just an overall big emphasis on independence. but now i'm confused, cause what i want is intimacy, closeness, a merging of our emotions, i guess a sort of dependency that makes us one. i'm confused, is what i want considered spiritually immature and bad because i desire to bond with my significant other? |