[The Cloud]

Is it love or attachment to the familiar? If he doesn't care about your emotional or physical needs, what about you does he care about?

Be aware that you could be a victim of what is known as "Affect Perseverance," which is the principle that feelings about something or someone based upon an initial impression will persist even in the face of a change in that which initially inspired the feelings. So say that a guy is really sweet and romantic to a girl when they are dating, and she develops positive feelings for him based upon that. Then they get married, and he begins to become verbally abusive and negative. According to Affect Perseverance, the girls positive feelings will persist even in the face of the guys negative behavior.

I'm not saying this is the case for you, I'm simply pointing it out as a possibility because you obviously have a conflict between what you want from your husband and what he is willing to give.