DQueens, a girlfriend of mine gave some advice that changed my lovelife, and maybe you would find it valuable. She suggested that when I'm with a man, any man, postman, boss, man-on-the-street, whether you find him attractive or not, practice saying to yourself (not out loud!) "I LOVE this man!!" and if you find him attractive, add to yourself, "this guy is one of the most ATTRACTIVE men I've ever seen!"
Sounds goofy, I know, but your whole body language will change and you'll exude something really brilliant. I'm not talking about sexuality; don't worry about seeming like a floozy. Just try it with someone you feel safe with, and watch how he reacts.
The other advice she gave me was go out with everyone who invites you (within reason). If a man asks you out, he sees something valuable in you that you might not be aware of, and you can use that mirroring to build your own confidence, openness, and self-awareness. Not to mention pathways to new friendship and/or romance. Watch carefully what makes you say "no" to an invitation -- if you're making a snap judgement about someone, try to see how that judgement might apply to you, yourself. (and of course there are occasions when saying "no" is perfectly appropriate! Just make sure you are clear with yourself about why you're saying no.)
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