What are you looking for in terms of social skills? A group of people to hang out with regularly? Good friends may or may not come in groups - or maybe you can bring a group together. My advice would be to be friendly with a lot of people, participate in a variety of activities which you enjoy and meet new people there, and you'll find you have a lot of friends. Then have a party and invite people from all those groups and see what happens. I'm sure the social dynamics vary from school to school, but at my college the popular people were people who were friendly with all sorts of people.
If you're specifically looking for a group, though, check out a fraternity - either a social fraternity or a service fraternity. That wouldn't have suited me, but it might suit you.
I haven't read either of the books you mentioned, so I can't comment on those.
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