Seeking counseling 6 years after being sexually assaulted, and finally recognizing that it wasn't my fault. I think that was a really big accomplishment for me, and one that I don't often share with people. I still have lots of work to do on that one...but the biggest hurdle was really just recognizing that I needed help...and asking for it.
I was (and still am, in some ways) stuck in all the crap about how men are supposed to be strong, and able to take care of problems on their own, and not have to talk about their feelings...yada, yada, yada. All that "man stuff" only served to bottle me up, and so I literally had this toxic experience in me for years before I could allow myself to start getting rid of it.
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