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Originally Posted by LifeFirst  That's an extreme case. Not likely to ever happen to a nice guy like him. |
I was being a bit tongue in cheek but you never know. A lot of guys get sucked into having a kid thinking "it couldn't never happen to them" and they aren't always mr. charisma. That said I would agree the concern isn't very realistic.
Being shy when you don't want to really sucks and it's not a matter of choice. That said, our society is extremely prejudice against shy people. A shy person should really take a step back and ask themselves, is it that they are shy which bothers them? Or is it that they don't fit with society that bothers them? Maybe there are people who like being shy, but don't like being sh*t upon by society. Since the pain of being excluded from society out weighs the pain of changing ones shyness, they decide to change. Even though they'd rather not. Also keep in mind that not everyone can "change" themselves as easily as everyone else. The term "shy" is extremely broad in terms of who it encompasses. Some will have extreme barriers to overcome, that may as well be impossible. Others will have a very easy time changing themselves. Most will fall somewhere in between. People need to know where they fall on this scale to have an idea of how much they can realistically expect to change, and whether or not it will be worth it. Just identifying oneself as "shy" really tells us very little.