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Originally Posted by carolove

Selmanito
My heart is with you, and your parents..
They have given you what they have learned and now it is different from what you want to learn.
I went through the same thing with my parents, and their criticism inspired me to move out when I was 18. I found a job and shared an apartment with friends. I moved back, for just 6 months, and their well-meaning criticism inspired me to move out again, and I promised myself, never to move back home. I have been on my own ever since.
As time went on I was able to reconnect with them as I accepted them for who they are, and able to appreciate the determination they gave me to be my own person.
I was able to appreciate what I learned from them as I let go of their lifestyle and created my own. There was a lot of criticism on their part as they looked at things differently than I did and that is the gap that we have with ourselves and our parents.

So what is happening with you now? The contrast with your parents is changing the comfort zone you have had. Now you are feeling the determination to go the direction you want. This contrast is telling you to go your own way. The gift, that your parents are giving you now, is bringing up the feelings that you are not comfortable living under their terms. They mean well, as they are teaching you what they have learned themselves. Try not to take it personally, they are your parents..and it is their way of thinking that if you were a certain way for them, then they would feel better and you think that if they were different, then you would feel better.

Now you want to listen to your Inner Child/Self/Voice, (whatever you chose to call it) and it is telling you that your parents way is not matching your way. Their way is not wrong..but it is not right for you..

You are a good person, I can feel the energy in your posting. You are a very bright person. I admire your courage, and I can see that your potential to do well is extremely high.

Believe in yourself and thank your parents lovingly, for what they have provided for you, and move on to your freedom, and find what you want for yourself. When you look back, you will be glad that they pushed you forward.
Write a script of what you want to create for yourself, in the present tense. Visualize yourself already there. Feel the GOOD feeling of being on your own with yourself or friends.

Hang in there..cause the Best is yet to come!!!

I am 54 years old now and I am thankful for all I had to learn through my parents. Even their criticism taught me so much about the courage I had and inspired me to move fast to be my own person.

I wish you well, as I know you will do well everywhere you go.

And as {aspiring_to_clarity} said “Your parents only have so much power over you as you give them.”
Now is the time to Empower Yourself. This is the perfect time to do it…

Any help on scripting can be found here if you wish. It helped me.
[url="http://whatanicewebsite.com/Connee/Scripting.htm[/URL]

Enjoy ~ In Joy ~ In Peace
carolove

"I am NOW more Peaced ON than Peaced off"

Great words, carol. Thank you. I'm actually riding in the same boat as you. I moved out for 2 years and moved back home for 6 months. Now, I am leaving to Japan for a year starting my English teaching job in a few weeks. I will learn even more about myself and the people who have made the most impact on me.

It is only until I removed myself from my environment that I began to see how I was truly influenced.