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Originally Posted by m18pak  Selmanito, this might seem harsh, but if everything that you say is true then the best thing you can do for yourself would be to leave your parents behind to live your own life. Cut off all ties with them, and never look back.
To put it bluntly, your parents will NEVER CHANGE, and they will never respect you as a person with a mind and will of your own. People never change no matter how much you might hope and wish and pray for them to. Never. They will never change because they will never even consider that they could be wrong. There is no point in hoping that they might come to treat you better one day, because they will always insist, to the end of their days, that they are always right. They will always make themselves out to be right, no matter what.
You have a right to free will, and they will never accept that, so the only thing that you can do is to accept their free will and to leave and let them be. It's your life, and you have the right to decide how to live it, even if your parents refuse to acknowledge this fact.
I know all this because this is what I did, and I can honestly say that it was the greatest decision that I ever made. It was the single best thing that I've ever done for myself, and it's bought me nothing but hope and happiness.
JUST DO IT. |
"Just do it" is horrible advice if you don't have a sound plan. When you do have a plan, then take action!
Learn to accept your parents and learn to accept responsibility for ALL your actions. Stop blaming others for your insignificance and do what you want to do for yourself! THEY WILL respect you once you make a life of your own, but who knows? It's a case by case basis and it is you who can decide that, not anyone here. You don't have to cut all ties with your parents because that is just ridiculous. You're making them out to be the bad guys, but all you have to do is see that IT IS YOU who put yourself there. It is you who agreed to all the terms and didn't stand up for yourself. This is reality. Stop focusing on the fact that it is THEM who is hindering you, when in fact, it is YOU.