I very much agree with m18pak. I believe that we chose our parents before we came to this world and there was something there to learn from it. Similarly, your parents chose to experience something by conceiving/adopting/fostering you. That's all it is; experience. What do you choose to experience and gain from these relationships with your parents?
Giving you my experience, when I was 10 my parents divorced and my Dad left. Initially I saw him every week, but it turned out to be less and less (it happens, he had to move etc). My mum became a much larger influence on me day by day - but I realised I wasn't actually happy with this living arrangement at around 16. When I saw and talked to my Dad I felt great, the converse held for being with my Mum (being around her 24/7 never helps.)
Essentially, I am very much like my father and not like my mother. So, now, at 18, I'm just about to spend my first Easter holidays (I'm at uni) with my Dad for 1 week and my Mum for 4 days (though she doesn't know this.) This is VERY significant: it will be the first time I split time more towards my dad (custody of the divorce meant otherwise until I turned 18) and it's my choice. I've had alot of guilt doing this, because my Mum is less strong than my Dad and reacts violently, aggressively, etc, but I can't help her. She still has alot of **** with my Dad (but it's not repatriated) and claims I'm too much like him, so she will not open her ears to me. So it's best to minimise my time at what was 'home'. My new home is University and my new second home is my Dad's. Typing this, I still feel guilty and upset, but it's a choice I'm still excited about.
Reading what you've written, your Dad appears to act in similar ways my Mum does. I'd suggest a similar plan of action.
Turn fear into excitement - I'm not sure of the legal Lybian structure, but what's the worst that can happen? I always feel as long as I avoid credit I can always start afresh if everything I know falls through and see what happens. In a way this is what I believe our souls do throughout their infinite lives - start from rock bottom [no knowledge, no experience], and hit the top, then start again. It's exciting, and a fact of life.
I hope that helped: I understand many people may not see it in the same way I would - I've learnt a strange sense of optimism that's unusual in most people (all people of my age) I meet
