The cloud...you are in a simpler situation than you think. Just analyze the whole relationship bit by bit. I don't really know the circumstances but it seems like you two are pretty close. And you see each other as friends but underneath MAYBE more than friends. Remember what you're going to lose if she feels the same and both of you were too shy to act.
Now I'm saying 'act' not 'propose your love to her'. Big difference. Even IF she does like you, she will be dumbfounded if you just go up to her and say: I love you. Take it slow. First make the transition from friend to boyfriend. Important thing, don't open up to her like you normally do, and don't let HER open up to you ESPECIALLY if she's talking about guys. Don't make large gestures that make it apparent you are into her or she'll be confused. Leave her in doubt whether you like her or not.
Make sure you are often alone with her, flirt, heighten her emotions. Make regular eye contact and position yourself close to her, not so much that you invade her personal space though and most importantly be CONFIDENT, don't appear shy or controllable.
Since this will probably be difficult for you now that you've been friends for a long time I suggest that you talk to other girls to get a feel of it, plus you can check if she's jealous or not when she sees you talking to other girls AND you can deprive her of the companionship which she once took forgranted.
Note that this is derived from my experience with women, it might not be the right approach at all, just the way I would do it.
Good luck the Cloud!
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