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Originally Posted by Marco Polo  Trying to think of "things to say" is most likely counterproductive. Conversation requires you to be spontaneous, a skill that can only come through sufficient practise. And practise will only come when you learn to act in spite of the fear (including fear of awkard silences). |
Very true! This is my problem,as i can imagine is the problem for all shy people. I often feel like,if i only had a script i could "see" while talking to people,and if i could just read off my lines,i would have no problems. Its just this lack of knowing what to say,thats the core problem i think,and that creates the shyness. When you drink alcohol, you suddenly can freely say whatever comes to mind without caring if anyone will even care what you say! Thats my theory on why so many people drink. I used to drink a lot but i've recently realized its only a cover up for a deeper problem. That,and hangovers suck LOL