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Originally Posted by Marco Polo  Then again, he might have been dating the girl of his dreams as well. I say shyness does more harm than good.
I've been very shy most of my life. The first and most important step to overcome this was being brutally honest with myself - you have to admit that you've got a big challenge here, but stay optimistic. You have to raise your conscious about the problem... imagine your fear as an object and just stare it down (this was really hard for me at first). Trying to actually stop the fear is futile, so don't try to fight the feeling itself. If you're really serious about overcoming shyness, it's best not to rationalize and say "oh well, maybe it's a good thing after all". If its stopping you from getting what you want then it's NOT a good thing, and you'll have to fight it.
I would also recommend FUllcrum's advice - no mind... I like that. 
Overanalyzing social situations only makes the shyness worse. |
On point..
I believe that it's not hard to walk up to a girl, or stranger and say "hi". It's easy as hell, anyone can do it. Even the shyest person can do it.
The problem is what you will say next....what are you going to say to a complete stranger that you don't know. What are you going to say to him/her after the initial 'hi' exchange. That's what's bothering him the most I think.