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Originally Posted by Joely  And it occurred to me suddenly, when I read Angela's advice about thinking something positive, I don't even know how to think something positive, not without instantly dismissing it as nonsense and "unrealistic." Wow. I never realised that before. |
Just to be clear, I'm not talking about positive thinking when I talk about deliberately thinking thoughts that feel good when you think them. The Little Train that Could mentality (Buck up!) doesn't work for me in living a life I love. But deliberately changing your thoughts to give yourself a little relief really does work for me. This might look more like, "I feel bad right now, and I'm ok. -- I'm ok, and I have the tools to feel better on purpose when I'm ready. -- When I'm ready, I'm really pretty powerful. I will be ready when I'm ready. I look forward to that." You know, which is quite different from, "I feel good! I have what I want now! Things are peachy!"
One gives me a little relief, and the other feeds my gremlin. He sits there smiling, gleefully rubbing his hands together and saying, "oh no you don't!" and feeling his power grow.