Originally Posted by uberinquisitive
But the best part of the night was sleeping with his cat by my side. I love that cat. I missed that cat.
Uber, the cat part is very funny!
Your situation is absolutely perfect. You struggled about boundaries during your relationship with this guy, and you came through some very big lessons for yourself in living a life you love. Now, after a bit of breathing space, he's back to give you a chance to put what you've learned into action! How great is that!
It's not important that you momentarily fell back into your old pattern of making his well-being a bigger priority than your own and trying to keep the peace at your own expense. That's perfect, really, because it magnifies for you what works for your and what doesn't. You don't feel good that you didn't stand for your boundaries, and that's your guide to take you onto the right path. It's just practice. Now you can take a deep breath and distinguish what it takes for you to take good care of yourself. Congratulations on that!
Is there any way you can get custody of the cat?