Originally Posted by Kaspian
So you're going to run from psychic to psychic until someone tells you what you want to hear? Seems like you've already heard from two who told you the same thing; you just don't like their answers. In this thread in general, you seem to resist hearing the advice people have given you if it doesn't fit what you think you want.
Although I believe in the value in getting someone else's perspective and advice when I'm struggling, I don't give them or what they say that much authority over me. Stop looking for signs outside yourself. Instead, quiet your mind, take a slow deep breath, and ask yourself—your subconscious mind, your body, your higher self—they all know; you just need to be willing to hear what they have to say.
Alone, I am whole and complete. In a relationship, I am also whole and complete. I don't need the guy to complete me. You can know you'd like to be in a relationship without letting it turn into a desperate want that controls your life. When you desperately need someone, you attract someone who wants to be desperately needed or will use your need to control or manipulate you.
Be your fabulous self alone. Develop your interests, grow as a person, find who you are, and then when you encounter some great guy who you really click with, he'll be more likely to be someone who is good to you and good for you.
So far i havent talked to ANY psychics about this,do you mean Erin's post? I havent read her blog yet. But i dont disregard what people say to me even if i dont want to hear it. I still read and consider everything everyone says. Its just that sometimes people peg me wrong,or sometimes i'm wording something in a misleading way,so i have to clarify. I was never good at wording things. And about the other thing,i HAVE felt like i was whole by myself,and happy...the last 3 years i've spent finding out who i am,what i want to really do with my life,expanding my mind,learning all kinds of new things i never knew existed (metaphysical things,holistic healing,lucid dreaming,meditation,the list goes on),in fact never in my life have i ever been so independent. I LOVE spending an entire day by myself learning and exploring things about myself and about life. I'm not saying i dont still have issues,just that i've made what feels like a complete turnaround as far as "ME" goes. I no longer feel dependent on anyone for my happiness. I WAS that way,but in order to notice this difference,i had to have changed at least somewhat.