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Originally Posted by moonrambler  . . . down to earth, doesn't run around, doesn't have a big ego, and is just looking for someone to teach him how to love again . . .
This too is where I start thinking, the qualities specified by Rockchick for Ideal Man are so opposite from "rock star" or even "successful band member" that it's astounding. It's like saying, "I want Mexican food. But I don't want it to be spicy. And I don't want it to have any cheese. Or any tomatoes. And I want it to have a name that's not in Spanish. And there can't be any rice. And the restaurant should be playing rap music. And everyone who works there should be Asian."
Rockchick. You've done a lot of posting and gotten a lot of responses from many people. What I see is this. You say something. Somebody responds as to how they perceive you. You protest and say that isn't you at all, and give a long explanation of what you actually are like. This has been repeated over and over and over. You come across as frantic. (Now you'll respond and say "Really, I'm not frantic!") The way you are coming across on this forum is probably the way you come across in real life. You need to take a deep breath and CALM DOWN. (Now you'll say, "Honestly, I was already calm!")
LoA is supposed to be about going with the flow, being in the zone. If you've stopped clinging to the bank and you're floating freely along the river of life now, and you tried to grab a lily that was floating by and you missed it, you don't get freaked out. You say, "Well heck. Probably an even better lily's up here somewhere. Or maybe not even a lily. Maybe some flower I don't even expect. Cool. Let's see what's up ahead."
My suggestion would be to start with your first post and take a look at how people answered you, and continue up through your most recent posting. When somebody answers you, instead of shifting into protest mode, stop for a second and think, "Ok. I see what you mean." And then for real, see what they mean. Most of what everyone here is telling you runs along the same lines. I don't think the whole group can be totally wrong.
P.S. It probably doesn't have to be L.A. You know there's a terrific music scene in the Twin Cities. |
You might not think my description of a guy can exist,but thats why i had this big thing for this certain guy,recently,because he WAS all those things. I dont know why it sounds so impossible anyway,because rock stars are human too and they have flaws,they arent all arrogant pompous sex crazed ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥...they are NORMAL,at least the guy i like is. I hung out with the band like they were regular people,THEY ARE! lol Thats why i dont see it as impossible that i can date one. I dont think they are superior to me or anyone. Just more talented. And as for people's replies to me,i HAVE said "i see what you mean",i HAVE said "you are right",apparently nobody notices those LOL You guys are making me look into myself deeper and question myself which is good,i can tell this is all going somewhere. But its not like me to sit back and let someone say how i am when i know the situation better. But i still read and consider EVERY reply i get! And yes i know there are plenty of guys my type in the Twin Cities,i see them at concerts so i know they're here somewhere LOL I just never see them in my daily life which is the problem,because i live 45 minutes from there so i only go there for concerts. I hate driving there though because i am not a city driver so it freaks me out driving up there,thats the only reason why i havent moved up there. I've gotten lost up there so many times,a few times for HOURS and i guess it traumatized me LOL I feel comfortable where i am,as far as getting around. It just sucks that the people in my town do nothing for me.