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Originally Posted by cylon  Fear of intimacy. Being picky is a shield that protects you from being exposed. You've set it up in your mind that you plan on being lonely a long time. It's tough, but this is the IM board. Which means, you get what you focus on. Start focusing on the good qualities in yourself, then you will meet people who have the same qualities. That's what I'm working on at least. |
If i have a fear of intimacy,why do i want it so bad? I'm not disputing this,i mean,obviously something is wrong here,but why do i crave to have a deep meaningful lasting relationship? People that i know who have a fear of intimacy,they go around having cheap meaningless sex and then they never call that person again,THAT is avoiding intimacy. I only avoid it with the guys i meet because i can tell they are not the one for me. People dont date people that they are disgusted by or have nothing in common with,so how come by ME not doing it that means i am afraid? I cant even prove this wrong because i've never had a guy that is my type ask me out,but i can promise you 100% that i would date him in a heartbeat if i ever had the chance. Now I hope the universe heard me and sends him my way so i can tell everyone it worked! LOL