danas,
First, I apologize if I am intruding. I normally do not try to give people advice on their relationships unless they ask me specifically. But I felt compelled to write.
A long time ago I was in a relationship like what has been described here. I understand that I may not have all the facts of your relationship, and it may be an entirely different situation. And you are not me, so your requirements may be different.
But... I was with someone who was not as emotionally or intellectually my equal too. I would not say that he was inferior, we were just very different intellectually and emotionally. But... he loved me. Very much. He would do anything for me. I could yell and scream at him, and he would still love me. He always did. I could say all sorts of hurtful things and he would still love me. I came to believe that no one could love me as much as he did.
But... I did. And my husband now loves me even more than the other guy did. And he makes me a better person because he does not let me get away with the hurtful comments or the yelling and screaming. And my husband was so not my type back then.
Emotional and intellectual commonalities is a very important aspect in a relationship. The feeling of "I love him, he loves me" will not last long if you guys don't "get" each other on a deeper level. If he is not your intellectual equal, he won't "get" you nor know how to communicate and share certain memories with you which will be vital in strengthening your relationship.
Have patience and believe that a better match is out there for you. It will turn out that this man will be "everything you never knew you always wanted." Anything awesome in our life takes a bit of time to establish - and well worth the wait.
If this current boyfriend is really your match, ask your guides for some signs. And open yourself up to receiving those signs. That may help.
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