Hi Petals, welcome!
I hope wiser souls will come in and respond for you soon, but I thought I'd share my thoughts.
It must be incredibly hard for you to see your husband being so negative all the time, it certainly makes it difficult to keep your own spirits up.
Unfortunately, here's the kicker:
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I think the main problem is HE doesn't feel that HE needs to change. There is nothing wrong with him as far as he's concerned. It's the world and other people that need to change. ... I have read threads in here saying to ignore the negative vibes and not try to change people because they can't be changed. But I'm really having trouble with it.
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The reason many threads in here say 'ignore the negative vibes, try not to change people', is because it's true. Oh, how I wish it weren't!
The only thing we can control is our reaction to other peoples' negativity. I know many people of the 'woe is me, I'm so unlucky, people/politics suck' persuasion, and you have to be strong not to buy into the pity party. You have to be the example of the fact that we make our own happiness, and you can do that by going about your life and letting it speak for itself.
Now, of course, it's a little more difficult when that person is your husband, purely because of the amount of time you spend together, and because you love them! But if HE doesn't think he has a problem, then don't let it be one for you - deflect any comments cheerily, or use the old "That's nice, dear" :P
It takes some practice, catching your emotions 'in the moment', but we ALWAYS have a choice as to how we react to another's comments.
Keep up the positivity!
