Hi Petals!
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Originally Posted by Petals  I think the main problem is HE doesn't feel that HE needs to change. |
Bingo!
And now
you are stuck not accepting him exactly for what he is and what he is not. That is your problem, not his.
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I have read threads in here saying to ignore the negative vibes and not try to change people because they can't be changed.
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I don't think that is the overall tenure here. Rather, our collective experience learns that people do change, but only when
they want to change. Also, that we cannot force a change in others - only in ourselves.
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But I'm really having trouble with it.
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I can imagine.
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How do I stop it hurting me? It's just killing me. If anyone can help me, I would really appreciate it.
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All you can do, really, is choose to not be affected by it. Let him sulk and 'enjoy' his little conspiracy theories... if that is what he wants, what can you do? Well, maybe you can also lead by example in being positive.
Good luck!