[Petals]

Hello people, I'm new to this forum. I found my way here because I'm really despairing over a problem.

My husband is the most negative and skeptical person I know. He believes everyone is out to con him. Everyone is evil/guilty until proven innocent. He complains about people and politics all the time and comes up with conspiracy theories about everything with alarming regularity.

He focuses on all the bad stuff that happens to him, always exclaiming that he's unlucky, and never remembers the good stuff that happens (even if I try to gently remind him from time to time).

Well, he believes in horoscope and karma, so I sometimes use that to veer him into positive thinking, telling him that negative energy breeds negative results and bad luck. He sort of listens to me for a moment, but then lapses back the next moment.

I discovered LOA very recently and excitedly introduced it to him. I told him the basics: "like attracts like", "thoughts become things". And then I briefly mentioned how LOA can be used to achieve big goals.

He trivialized the whole thing. "Ok, I shall start visualising myself winning the lottery. I'll believe your LOA if I win a million bucks by the end of the week."

I think the main problem is HE doesn't feel that HE needs to change. There is nothing wrong with him as far as he's concerned. It's the world and other people that need to change.

HOW in the world do I deal with such a husband? Ok, I know I've made him out to be a total jerk, but he does have many great stuff about him to make up for the negativity. I love him dearly and I want to help him.

I have read threads in here saying to ignore the negative vibes and not try to change people because they can't be changed. But I'm really having trouble with it.

We're only married 1.5 years and it's my wish that we grow together. I want our marriage to be about partnership and sharing. If I have to see him get eaten up by negativity for the rest of our lives without being able to do anything about it, I don't know if I can stay in the marriage.

Every time he says something negative, I feel like it's as good as he's slashed himself with a razorblade. It hurts me to see him hurt himself. I want to stop him doing that, but I don't want to be a nag.

How do I stop it hurting me? It's just killing me. If anyone can help me, I would really appreciate it.

Thank you for reading.