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Originally Posted by Chado2423  How can I be a good friend to myself, knowing I've left a damaged relationship in my past? Knowing I shattered the heart of a person I care very deeply for? I feel so terrible... I feel so worthless. I've ruined the best relationship I've ever had... and I'm just supposed to let it go, without doing anything to make it better? I hate myself so much right now. |
How can you
not be a good friend to yourself? You need you more than ever now. Yes, you're supposed to just let it go.
You don't have to fall on your sword. Don't excuse yourself, but don't hate yourself. To hate people solves nothing, and you are people, too.
You are not the first person to make mistakes. You won't be the last. Make an honest assessment of what went wrong and why. But -- don't condemn yourself. What would condemning yourself accomplish? Who gave you the idea that it's your job to punish yourself? Isn't what has happened punishment enough? Natural consequences do a very efficient job of motivating us with pain. You don't need to add to it.
You screwed up. It's not unique. Your ex screwed up too. I've screwed up. Everybody here has screwed up. You're responsible only to figure out YOUR part in the great screw-up called life and do what is necessary and possible to do better next time.
--Bob