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Originally Posted by 3nigma  It's not that I'm bothered by it, like... bothered as in "Oh I can't believe he's going to try to do that and leave me in the dust" sort of thing. I don't care about that at all, I'm just annoyed when he talks about things that clearly aren't going to happen. How would you like having a friend around that says all types of things that never occur. In fact, the only time this guy ever does anything is when I do it first, and that's not a lie. But I'll take your advice and just shrug it off, see how that works. Next time he says something similar to this, I'll just say "Cool, that's great."
Oh, and I know. He taught me a very important lesson, and that is that I don't talk about anything until it's done. I think his whole problem is that when you talk about something, you lose energy in the thing you're talking about because you feel like just by talking about it you're doing something. Talk and action are two completely different things. |
Actually, I have known many people who are all talk and no action. The truth is this:
1. It's their life not mine and if they don't follow through, they're the only ones who screwed up.
2. It's my choice whether or not I let what they say and fail to do bother me.
I yammer on about what I'm going to do all the time, but I still manage to go and do it. He's probably too scared of actually taking action. I bet, deep down, he feels intimidated by you - and other people - because you take action and do things. Big Talkers hide their feelings of fear and incompetence behind big words and grand dreams. It is worth remembering that I expect he's driven by deep feelings of insecurity. The only reason to big yourself up is because you feel insecure and need other people to provide you with reassurance in the form of being impressed by you. And it never works.
My basic point is that you can't do anything about his behaviour and it's not your responsibility to; you can only do something about how you feel about his behaviour. I've started to ask myself, when I'm bothered by other people "Is this really my problem?" and it really works.