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Originally Posted by Angela  You seem to be holding onto a "other people don't change, why should I?" point of view. Healthy people change all the time, Rockchick. If something's not working, they try something else. They were just fine to begin with, and they're just fine when they change. Just like you.
Adapting your behavior, or trying on a new way of being, does not mean you are not fine. I get the sense that you feel that if you change, then that means you're acknowledging there's something wrong with you, and you refuse to do that. Well, there is nothing wrong with you. And any new behavior or way of being you experiment with or are inspired by does not mean anything at all about you.
If I hadn't tried on new ways of being, if I had stayed married to my point of view, there is absolutely NO WAY that I would be in my wonderful relationship with my wonderful boyfriend, Danger Man. And by the way, I was 43 when I met him. |
Yeah you're right,i do feel like if i have to try new ways of doing things,that means i'm changing because the previous way was wrong. I guess i'll have to get past that. Well i dont entirely believe change is bad,i mean for the last year i have immersed myself in self help books and learning about new things like dreams,psychology,philosophy,the meaning of life,all kinds of cool stuff. I love growing. I guess this is a kind of therapy for me because slowly i am learning all about being human and that will lead me to finding out why i am stuck in my life. Thanks for all your help and advice,all of you! :-)