Hi Jamie,
I'm so sorry this has happened and I can see you want to do everything you can to make things work out for her. Unfortunately your GP can't discuss your sister with you unless you have power of attorney: patient confidentiality applies here.
I can appreciate how both of you feel, but I think the reason why your sister refuses to get help is that she's scared of being seen as weak and helpless. It sounds to me like a control issue - she wants control of her life and to do things her way. I think if you try to sort everything out for her, that might only make the problem worse. The best thing, the absolute best thing you can do for her now is not try to sort her out. Listen, be there for her, support her, allow her to be her rather than fixing her. It might be that she feels that you're judging her, and think you know better than her, which will make her feel angry and resentful and less likely to listen.
There's one other thing: this is her life to live for herself. She can find her own way out of this if you give her the encouragement to believe that she can. I speak as somebody who's been suicidal, been in a similar place and pulled myself out.
PM me if you'd like any further help - I've been through this with a few other friends so it's kind of familiar.
J x
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