Around the time I started my second year of college, I had a couple of roommates who didn't like the boyfriend I had at the time. The more they tried to tell me how bad he was, the more I resisted and avoided them, choosing to spend more time with him instead and attributing their "judgment" to the fact that they were religious and I was not. In December, they both moved out, and then there was nothing to resist. By early January, I realized that the guy was manipulative and had been degrading my self-confidence. I dumped him almost immediately.
Long story short: trying to change people doesn't work. If they're going to change/learn, they'll do it on their own, in their own timeline, on their own terms.
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