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Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot  I hope you understand that I did not disagree with the proposition that competence can build confidence. I merely sought to point out that the relationship is not that absolute or one-way. For example, confidence can also help to build competence; competence can be choked by a lack of confidence etc.
And as I have mentioned, the 'act as if' principle is a much broader idea than a simple discussion of competenc/confidence.
For example, perhaps your original thinking is that "I am a person who does not know how to unicycle across the parking lot" and you had a lot of resistance towards trying. Then what you could have done is act as if you were a person who is willing to learn and is not afraid of crashing a few times in front of other people. |
Ok, I understand. (1st paragraph)
(3rd paragraph)... I didn't resist trying at all because my goals were so easy. I released the need to not look dumb in front of other people.
As far as acting as if.... why act when you can be? For example, instead of acting like your happy, you could be grateful for your blessings. DO things that create the positive emotion of happiness (or cheerfulness).
edit: this isn't directed to you Chado. After I read your post, your situation has more factors ... I was just making a more general statement.