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Originally Posted by Parthon  You hang out in bars, but the sort of guy you want doesn't hang out in bars. You also have the tag Rock Chick, and it raises the question, "Are you the sort of person that kind of guy would like?" It comes down to, not what you do, but who you are inside, your vibrational match, to what gets attracted into your life. If you want a nice family guy, but also to party hard every night, that's not going to match up.
On top of that there's some soul searching to be done. Start with WHY you want a particular guy in your life, what kinds of ways would he fulfill you and see if there is a vibrational core between them. Find similarities in how you would feel if that was fulfilled and where you life would go if you had everything you wanted. Find the basis for your desire, the very bottom of all the reasons, and you will get closer to the core. Then you just find ways to bring it into your life. Not through another person but through yourself. For example: If the core is love, then you give love to all those you meet, through smiling and being friendly, honest and caring towards other. Once you are a vibrational match, the right guy will come along.
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This post really made me think LOL Here's what i have to say: I dont really feel like i'm waiting around for a guy in order to make my life happen,i've had countless of the most wonderful experiences ever that had NOTHING to do with a relationship or any man. What i want is to experience love with another person. I have already felt like i've experienced it enough with myself. I feel left out that everyone else knows what love feels like except me. Not just to receive it but to give it,and want to give it. (i wasnt in love with my ex bf,i know that now) THOSE are my reasons for wanting a relationship. And what i dont get is,how do other people find them so easily when most people dont really love themselves? I dont get why i have to do these certain things but other people dont even have to. And why do i get questioned for wanting this when its a normal thing to want? Its the most basic human desire,to love. I just get the feeling from some of these posts that i'm not supposed to want it. And about the hanging out in bars thing,yeah i do want to attract musicians and where else can i find them besides bars? Bands play in bars. I cant rely on meeting them at major concerts because its hard to meet them and if you are able to,you get 30 seconds to talk to them if youre lucky. And you cant "get to know" a guy in a band in that situation. I had my hopes up that this guy would be different (the one in the band that i like) but as you all know,that didnt happen. And actually,i dont really "hang out in bars",last week was the first time i've been in a bar in about a year. Its just the normal place to go with your friends. But there ARE some musicians that hang out in bars,just WAY more of the other guys. And as for being the type of person they would want,i feel like i am! I know ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ about music,i can talk music 24/7. I can play piano by ear and i love to sing. I usually feel like i have a hard time being involved in any conversation UNLESS its about music. So naturally i would perfectly fit in with them. So if that isnt matching your desire,i dont know what is. And i realize it may sound contradictory to say i want a rock star/musician type but then say i want to get married...but those types of guys DO get married and settle down,and even if they dont,that's the kind of life i want...i want more than anything to be with a guy that is in a band because i could tour with them and live that life all the time. To be totally immersed in music and being around everyone else who loves it too,that is what i live for. So it would only make sense that i would be with a guy who is into that too. And it is possible to be in a serious,commited,loving relationship with a guy like that. Oh,i'm sorry this is all one paragraph but every time i hit return and space a few times,it doesnt show up in my post so i dont know how to break up paragraphs LOL