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Do you think you might be generating a space for your wife in which she feels intellectually second-rate because she can't discuss that stuff with you (but your ex could)? I mean, if you were to find connection of intellect between the two you in other areas that you both share, so that she feels like your favorite communication partner rather than an also-ran -- do you think that might have her feeling more valuable and sexy? Talking and connecting is pretty good foreplay, you know.
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Well I never thought of it like that. It sounds like I compare my wife and ex a lot, but I don't think I do. My wife is a simple (on the surface
), elegant, silly, seat of the pants gal. I enjoy spending time with her, we know each other's love languages and all, its just we are polar opposites.
How would I explore a communication connection with her? I would be forced to resort to drugs if I had to discuss soap operas, or lifetime/hallmark movies
Now that's not all my wife does, she's going to college/vocational school to be an esthetician. Not much common ground there.