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Originally Posted by CPUNeck  Honestly, my wife is great, warm, trusting, sincere, a great mother, etc. Intellectually we are completely opposite. I can't come home and converse with her about fluid dynamics or thermal properties relating to inertia, etc. My ex and I COULD. |
Is that really necessary to you in a loving, long-term mutually beneficial relationship? To talk about fluid dynamics and thermal properties relating to inertia, etc.?
Do you think you might be generating a space for your wife in which she feels intellectually second-rate because she can't discuss that stuff with you (but your ex could)? I mean, if you were to find connection of intellect between the two you in other areas that you both share, so that she feels like your favorite communication partner rather than an also-ran -- do you think that might have her feeling more valuable and sexy? Talking and connecting is pretty good foreplay, you know.