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Originally Posted by seeker5  I'm confused. How does "You need to grow up", and "you sound immature" help someone who is in deep pain at all?
It's one thing to offer suggestions and advice, such as "Take responsibility" and I understand how that can help. I don't understand how the above phrases can help, except by putting the other person on the defensive. |
It's very hard, if not impossible, to make a call on this; how do you tell if a person is ready for, and can digest, take on board, a few 'home-truths'? You can get more of an idea if you know that person in real-life, but over the internet ...
I think it's hard to make a judgement on what's appropriate for that person.