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Originally Posted by CPUNeck  I wanted to be the best I could since I couldn't be enough for my ex. |
So you've been being carrying around "I'm not enough" (or rather, that belief has been carrying you!) ever since. Along comes your hs sweetheart who makes you feel like "enough", but still "I'm not enough" nags at you a little, not really even consciously. You want to prove that you're not "not enough" and avoid being discovered as "not enough" (again, subconsciously); the ex-girlfriend represents the big way to do both.
So you "found her recently." What does that mean? Did you go looking for her? Run into her at Starbucks? Search on the Internet? If you were to hook up with her, or reject her sexually, would that mean that you are enough now? Your current wife and family aren't completely satisfying you, and really nothing ever will as long as you buy into "I'm not enough." It has nothing to do with who they are, or who your ex is. It's all about who you choose to be.
If you were not believing "I'm not enough", what would be possible in your life? In your marriage?